Friday, March 18, 2016

Leadershit

Marcel Schwantes writes and literature confirms dysfunctional leadership...
These common thought patterns hold leaders back, destroy their self-esteem, and damage relationships in the workplace.
1. VERY EXTREME—seeing things in black and white, and blowing things out of proportion.
2. VERY BROAD—generalizing from a specific; labeling people rather than their behaviors.
3. VERY NEGATIVE—seeing the glass as half empty and dwelling heavily on the worst possible outcome.
4. VERY DEMANDING—wanting things their way and having expectations that cloud a sense of reality.
5. VERY JUDGMENTAL—condemning others for their shortcomings and being unable to forgive.
6. VERY OBSESSED—getting on a track of being unable to budge or view things differently; persevering about something that is out of their control.
7. VERY CONFUSED—having pictures in their heads that do not match the "real world"; feeling that they don't get what they think they're "supposed to" get; having a hard time seeing things without denial, blame and negativity.
8. VERY INTOLERANT—having a need to have things the way they "should be"; finding it difficult to have patience and tolerance for differences that don't fit their needs and expectations.
9. VERY PERFECTIONISTIC—having a need to be "right" and not make mistakes, as that would mean one is inferior or is a failure; having permeating low self-esteem.
10. "SHOULDING" ON SELF AND OTHERS—placing expectations of how one "should" be, thereby limiting their ability to accept self and others without judgment, leading to negativity and tendency to criticize.