"...it's like watching your friends put their tongue on a cold, metal pool in winter. Looks like great fun and tremendously exciting at the time. Then you do it, and your are stuck." Unless of course you get unstuck and realize that you are free. Now that's exciting. And you likely will never put your tongue on a cold pole again. But you might encourage others to do it, just for the entertainment value :)
A very good and old friend of mine asked me today if he should get married (again). Fact is, he's been on the pole once already. But I certainly could use the entertainment. Isn't that what friends are for?
Let us not look back in anger or forward in fear, but around in awareness. 
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